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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2015 1:53:07 GMT -5
Messed up my computer pretty good just now while screwing with the display settings trying to get this new 46" TV to work as a monitor.
My last monitor was a TV so I know how to make it happen but this TV had some more options and I thought I could make things a little better. I got blank screen and panicked and gave it a few hard restarts before I realized I needed to change the input on the TV. By the time the display was back on the computer was in startup repair. A quick google search informed me this usually fixes the problem, but takes forever. Like between 5 and 24 hours. So at that point I'll either have a working computer or I'll head to step two, which is to buy a startup disc on eBay. So I may be in lurk mode for a while since this phone just isn't comfortable to make long posts like this with.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2015 2:35:29 GMT -5
Crisis over, computer display working better than ever.
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Post by Pharozonk on Feb 21, 2015 11:13:46 GMT -5
Well, I'm in the queue to buy badges for San Diego Comic Con. Wish me luck guys!  |
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Post by the4thpip on Feb 21, 2015 13:05:26 GMT -5
Hey, everyone. I, um, I need some help. I'm facing an issue in my life that's really hard for me. I don't know what to do anymore. I would like to apologize in advance, because it might take me a bit to explain the issue. You see, I don't live with my biological family. I moved out when I was sixteen to live with a friend and her family. But I maintained contact with everyone. I'm the eldest of seven children. Their ages range from 10 to 19. I mean, we can't always keep contact, because sometimes they don't have a phone or access to Internet. It's gotten better over the recent years, but still we struggle. Between an hour time difference, my college classes, their schooling, and stuff, we just can't always stop to call. We pass messages on Facebook and answer when we can. I ALWAYS, however, stop to listen to their problems. Because I love them, you know? I try as hard as I can to keep in contact. We even have a group chat set up so we can act like we are all in the same room talking. Well, recently, something happened. Something big that caused a rift in the family. I'm still not sure exactly what happened, but it caused them to take sides. And since I wasn't involved, I wasn't informed right away. I was able to talk to two of my sisters one day in that group chat, and of course the issue at hand was brought up. And, like always, I talked to them about it, despite not being directly involved. But, then another sister (this one has always been the closest to me. We agree on a lot of things, share interests, defend each other to the core, like we were more than sisters, we were best friends. We share our problems and secrets and dreams. That's how close we were.) Anyway, I sort of digress. She comes in to the chat and starts telling the other two that they're selfish and deserve every hardship that falls upon them. I tried asking her what she was talking about and then she rounded on me and told me I had no right to talk to any of them about their problems. She said because I had moved out, I was no longer related to them and should just stay out of their lives. She said I wouldn't understand their problems partly because I was a community college student (she's going to a university) and partly because I apperently don't really care. She told me I had never cared about them and should stop pretending. I tried to explain myself, but the fight went on and I eventually snapped, said some nasty things in return, and shut her account off from the group chat and blocked her. At first, I expressed how deep the pain of this incident was. I cried and ranted. But after a couple days I put up a "devil may care" front, because I didn't want my burden to overshadow the people around me anymore. So I kept all my emotions inside and it's beginning to mess things up for me. Even now, writing this out, trying to ask for advice, for help, it's hard. Because I don't want to burden anyone else with this. But, I don't know what else to do. Because I know I need help and this won't get any better without it. Because I know I'm stubborn and I know if I don't, I'll sit here with this storm inside my head and heart, this crushing feeling of despair. What do I do? Please, if someone has any advice for me, I'll be glad to take it. Sabra Have you considered telling her how you feel in an actual, paper, envelope and stamp letter? The escalation happened on facebook, I think I'd try to reconcile via a different medium. Something that is a little old fashioned and quaint and out of the ordinary. It's too easy to ignore or delete messages on the web if she's still angry. |
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Post by Wild Card on Feb 21, 2015 15:04:52 GMT -5
Hey, everyone. I, um, I need some help. I'm facing an issue in my life that's really hard for me. I don't know what to do anymore. I would like to apologize in advance, because it might take me a bit to explain the issue. You see, I don't live with my biological family. I moved out when I was sixteen to live with a friend and her family. But I maintained contact with everyone. I'm the eldest of seven children. Their ages range from 10 to 19. I mean, we can't always keep contact, because sometimes they don't have a phone or access to Internet. It's gotten better over the recent years, but still we struggle. Between an hour time difference, my college classes, their schooling, and stuff, we just can't always stop to call. We pass messages on Facebook and answer when we can. I ALWAYS, however, stop to listen to their problems. Because I love them, you know? I try as hard as I can to keep in contact. We even have a group chat set up so we can act like we are all in the same room talking. Well, recently, something happened. Something big that caused a rift in the family. I'm still not sure exactly what happened, but it caused them to take sides. And since I wasn't involved, I wasn't informed right away. I was able to talk to two of my sisters one day in that group chat, and of course the issue at hand was brought up. And, like always, I talked to them about it, despite not being directly involved. But, then another sister (this one has always been the closest to me. We agree on a lot of things, share interests, defend each other to the core, like we were more than sisters, we were best friends. We share our problems and secrets and dreams. That's how close we were.) Anyway, I sort of digress. She comes in to the chat and starts telling the other two that they're selfish and deserve every hardship that falls upon them. I tried asking her what she was talking about and then she rounded on me and told me I had no right to talk to any of them about their problems. She said because I had moved out, I was no longer related to them and should just stay out of their lives. She said I wouldn't understand their problems partly because I was a community college student (she's going to a university) and partly because I apperently don't really care. She told me I had never cared about them and should stop pretending. I tried to explain myself, but the fight went on and I eventually snapped, said some nasty things in return, and shut her account off from the group chat and blocked her. At first, I expressed how deep the pain of this incident was. I cried and ranted. But after a couple days I put up a "devil may care" front, because I didn't want my burden to overshadow the people around me anymore. So I kept all my emotions inside and it's beginning to mess things up for me. Even now, writing this out, trying to ask for advice, for help, it's hard. Because I don't want to burden anyone else with this. But, I don't know what else to do. Because I know I need help and this won't get any better without it. Because I know I'm stubborn and I know if I don't, I'll sit here with this storm inside my head and heart, this crushing feeling of despair. What do I do? Please, if someone has any advice for me, I'll be glad to take it. Sabra I'm really glad you finally worked up the courage to share this, Sabra. I know it's been eating away at you. My first thought is not to take any of this to heart. Clearly something big is going on, and your sister is venting on you, but you're not who she's really angry at, and chances are the things she's saying aren't things she really means. More likely, you're resented because you got away and don't have to deal with what they are dealing with. Again, the anger really isn't at you. If A fire burns down my house and spares my neighbor's, and I yell at the neighbor, I'm really actually angry at the fire. Good for you for getting out of there if that's what you needed to do, and more impressive still that you've maintained contact and do still care. So my advice: don't take any of it personally and just do your best to be there for them right now. Don't try to solve the problem, and maybe you really can't fully understand it since you're not there, but you can be there for them and support and love them. I agree that you should unblock your sister and make an attempt to reconcile. Clearly, she has a lot on her plate right now, and, chances are, none of it has anything to do with you. Sounds like she needs you more than ever. Remember -- you can't really get angry at a family member unless, deep down, you love them too. Clearly, you matter to your sister a great deal. That doesn't change with a few angry words. But that doesn't mean shut up about it, grin and bear it, and stop thinking of yourself. This is going to take a toll on you, and not being part of what's happening is going to make you feel alienated too, so keep leaning on us and talking it out here. We've got your back I'm sorry in advance, I'm on mobile and can't edit without messing up the quotes: Thank you, Shax. Seriously! I am too. Ever since you mentioned it, I've been struggling for the right words. I think you make very good points. And after you said (wrote) it, and I thought about it, I believe you to be right. I say harsh words in anger all the time, but I never mean them. They're just "heat of the moment" words. I think that's what's going on. What I've gathered is that she took one side and the rest took the other, so I think she snapped because she felt alone. When it boils down to the raw emotions, I realize I'm not angry at her either. I'm angry at the situation, but mostly I'm angry at myself. Because I feel what she said is true and now I want to tell her how I feel and listen to how she feels. Like we used to. Because I know how I'm feeling, she felt once too. She told me as much awhile back. Leaving them was the hardest decision I ever made. But, also it was something I had to do. Because if I hadn't, I wouldn't have made it through high school. My sense of dedication to my siblings was/is so strong, I had stopped going to high school to care for them and make sure they had what they needed. By the time I left, they were better off and I felt I would just be added space, just one extra mouth to feed, if I stayed. Sorry, that sounds so...depressing, maybe foolish. I don't know anymore. I just wanted to get better and then use my betterment to help them one day. I knew it wouldn't happen overnight, maybe things would get better before I could help. From what I've been hearing, things are looking way up for them. And, for that, I'm glad. I feel I should tell her these things. And I feel I should let her tell me what she needs to tell me. So, I'll unblock her and attempt soon. Thank you, again, for helping me, and also for pointing out that I should ask for help here. I never would have done it on my own. Sabra |
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Post by Wild Card on Feb 21, 2015 15:06:53 GMT -5
Hey, everyone. I, um, I need some help. I'm facing an issue in my life that's really hard for me. I don't know what to do anymore. I would like to apologize in advance, because it might take me a bit to explain the issue. You see, I don't live with my biological family. I moved out when I was sixteen to live with a friend and her family. But I maintained contact with everyone. I'm the eldest of seven children. Their ages range from 10 to 19. I mean, we can't always keep contact, because sometimes they don't have a phone or access to Internet. It's gotten better over the recent years, but still we struggle. Between an hour time difference, my college classes, their schooling, and stuff, we just can't always stop to call. We pass messages on Facebook and answer when we can. I ALWAYS, however, stop to listen to their problems. Because I love them, you know? I try as hard as I can to keep in contact. We even have a group chat set up so we can act like we are all in the same room talking. Well, recently, something happened. Something big that caused a rift in the family. I'm still not sure exactly what happened, but it caused them to take sides. And since I wasn't involved, I wasn't informed right away. I was able to talk to two of my sisters one day in that group chat, and of course the issue at hand was brought up. And, like always, I talked to them about it, despite not being directly involved. But, then another sister (this one has always been the closest to me. We agree on a lot of things, share interests, defend each other to the core, like we were more than sisters, we were best friends. We share our problems and secrets and dreams. That's how close we were.) Anyway, I sort of digress. She comes in to the chat and starts telling the other two that they're selfish and deserve every hardship that falls upon them. I tried asking her what she was talking about and then she rounded on me and told me I had no right to talk to any of them about their problems. She said because I had moved out, I was no longer related to them and should just stay out of their lives. She said I wouldn't understand their problems partly because I was a community college student (she's going to a university) and partly because I apperently don't really care. She told me I had never cared about them and should stop pretending. I tried to explain myself, but the fight went on and I eventually snapped, said some nasty things in return, and shut her account off from the group chat and blocked her. At first, I expressed how deep the pain of this incident was. I cried and ranted. But after a couple days I put up a "devil may care" front, because I didn't want my burden to overshadow the people around me anymore. So I kept all my emotions inside and it's beginning to mess things up for me. Even now, writing this out, trying to ask for advice, for help, it's hard. Because I don't want to burden anyone else with this. But, I don't know what else to do. Because I know I need help and this won't get any better without it. Because I know I'm stubborn and I know if I don't, I'll sit here with this storm inside my head and heart, this crushing feeling of despair. What do I do? Please, if someone has any advice for me, I'll be glad to take it. Sabra Have you considered telling her how you feel in an actual, paper, envelope and stamp letter? The escalation happened on facebook, I think I'd try to reconcile via a different medium. Something that is a little old fashioned and quaint and out of the ordinary. It's too easy to ignore or delete messages on the web if she's still angry. I'd also like to apologize in advance, I can't edit the quotes in mobile: Thank you, I this is a highly possible solution. I've written down everything I've thought about since it happened. It's just scattered about in notes and journals. Maybe I can find the right words to send. I think she would respond greatly to that, as we're both old fashioned writers. We like to write things down on paper more than anything. I'll have to find an address in which to send the letter to, but I think I know a place already. So, I'll still unblock her, but I'll try also writing a letter. Thank you! |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2015 15:50:24 GMT -5
Just found out I have a somewhat unexpected night off tonight. We got hit by a decent storm and our county has a level 2 snow emergency in place, which means, call your employer before heading out as only necessary vehicles should be on the road, and when I did, my boss told me to stay home. No one is out in this mess so we had been dead all day.
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Post by berkley on Feb 21, 2015 16:10:23 GMT -5
Hey, everyone. I, um, I need some help. I'm facing an issue in my life that's really hard for me. I don't know what to do anymore. I would like to apologize in advance, because it might take me a bit to explain the issue. You see, I don't live with my biological family. I moved out when I was sixteen to live with a friend and her family. But I maintained contact with everyone. I'm the eldest of seven children. Their ages range from 10 to 19. I mean, we can't always keep contact, because sometimes they don't have a phone or access to Internet. It's gotten better over the recent years, but still we struggle. Between an hour time difference, my college classes, their schooling, and stuff, we just can't always stop to call. We pass messages on Facebook and answer when we can. I ALWAYS, however, stop to listen to their problems. Because I love them, you know? I try as hard as I can to keep in contact. We even have a group chat set up so we can act like we are all in the same room talking. Well, recently, something happened. Something big that caused a rift in the family. I'm still not sure exactly what happened, but it caused them to take sides. And since I wasn't involved, I wasn't informed right away. I was able to talk to two of my sisters one day in that group chat, and of course the issue at hand was brought up. And, like always, I talked to them about it, despite not being directly involved. But, then another sister (this one has always been the closest to me. We agree on a lot of things, share interests, defend each other to the core, like we were more than sisters, we were best friends. We share our problems and secrets and dreams. That's how close we were.) Anyway, I sort of digress. She comes in to the chat and starts telling the other two that they're selfish and deserve every hardship that falls upon them. I tried asking her what she was talking about and then she rounded on me and told me I had no right to talk to any of them about their problems. She said because I had moved out, I was no longer related to them and should just stay out of their lives. She said I wouldn't understand their problems partly because I was a community college student (she's going to a university) and partly because I apperently don't really care. She told me I had never cared about them and should stop pretending. I tried to explain myself, but the fight went on and I eventually snapped, said some nasty things in return, and shut her account off from the group chat and blocked her. At first, I expressed how deep the pain of this incident was. I cried and ranted. But after a couple days I put up a "devil may care" front, because I didn't want my burden to overshadow the people around me anymore. So I kept all my emotions inside and it's beginning to mess things up for me. Even now, writing this out, trying to ask for advice, for help, it's hard. Because I don't want to burden anyone else with this. But, I don't know what else to do. Because I know I need help and this won't get any better without it. Because I know I'm stubborn and I know if I don't, I'll sit here with this storm inside my head and heart, this crushing feeling of despair. What do I do? Please, if someone has any advice for me, I'll be glad to take it. Sabra Have you considered telling her how you feel in an actual, paper, envelope and stamp letter? The escalation happened on facebook, I think I'd try to reconcile via a different medium. Something that is a little old fashioned and quaint and out of the ordinary. It's too easy to ignore or delete messages on the web if she's still angry. I find facebook lends itself to angry exchanges, for some reason. Maybe it's the relatively short, snappy messages it tends to encourage as opposed to some other media. Whatever the reason, I see a lot more ranting, backbiting, insults, accusations, ad hominem attacks, etc, etc in, say, political threads on FB, than I see on messageboards, for example - and they can be pretty bad for all that kind of thing themselves. But amongst the abuse, you do occasionally see a longer, more thoughtful post that addresses the issues, or at least tries to. I don't see that on FB much. Almost any disagreement seems liable to degenerate into an exchange of personal attacks - even more so than with other media, where of course it can also happen.. |
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Post by Wild Card on Feb 21, 2015 16:26:48 GMT -5
, But that doesn't mean shut up about it, grin and bear it, and stop thinking of yourself. This is going to take a toll on you, and not being part of what's happening is going to make you feel alienated too, so keep leaning on us and talking it out here. We've got your back My phone saw fit to erase my response to this part of your message, here goes: I'll try to remember this, Shax. and I'll keep trying to talk it out with you guys, especially if it gets bad. I really truly honestly appreciate it. I love you guys, I really do. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2015 17:57:48 GMT -5
Well, I'm in the queue to buy badges for San Diego Comic Con. Wish me luck guys! I see they sold out in about an hour. Did you have any luck? -M |
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Post by Pharozonk on Feb 21, 2015 19:21:33 GMT -5
Well, I'm in the queue to buy badges for San Diego Comic Con. Wish me luck guys! I see they sold out in about an hour. Did you have any luck? -M I got really lucky this year and got all 4 days! |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2015 19:27:32 GMT -5
I see they sold out in about an hour. Did you have any luck? -M I got really lucky this year and got all 4 days! Congrats/condolences   -M |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2015 21:33:31 GMT -5
Wow, awesome! Congrats
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Post by Pharozonk on Feb 21, 2015 22:12:50 GMT -5
Thanks guys! |
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Post by Pharozonk on Feb 22, 2015 12:33:19 GMT -5
Guess who just became friends with Paul Levitz on Facebook?  |
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