Confessor
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Post by Confessor on Jun 28, 2023 11:16:09 GMT -5
There are several members of the forum that I exchanged phone numbers with. That's probably why they're all leaving!!! It’s good to have that type of contact for whatever may come. A few years back Brutalis and I exchanged numbers and that’s how I found out that he passed away. A relative contacted me. If you’re simpatico with members here, it might be a good idea to exchange emails or phone numbers with them. It doesn’t mean you have to call them every day , but it’s good to have other options than this forum. In all seriousness though, this is very good advice. I'm friends with a number of long-time members here over on Facebook (even those sad sacks who don't like green space-rabbits, would ya believe?). That tends to be my backup point of contact. But exchanging phone numbers is a good idea too and, as was your experience with Brutalis, can be better than FB in terms of learning that someone has passed away.
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Post by Icctrombone on Jun 28, 2023 13:26:50 GMT -5
It’s terrifying to consider that some stop posting because of dying but many of us are not spring chickens.
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Post by codystarbuck on Jun 28, 2023 20:20:15 GMT -5
It’s terrifying to consider that some stop posting because of dying but many of us are not spring chickens. Speak for yourRRRRGGGGHHhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhh....................................
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Post by berkley on Jun 28, 2023 23:07:54 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about all these regulars leaving. I've enjoyed reading their posts, agree or disagree. Hearing that someone's not only stopped posting but has also deleted their account always makes me worry a little that they've been hurt or offended in some way and that I may have contributed to this. Not a good feeling.
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Post by impulse on Jun 29, 2023 6:25:31 GMT -5
Right, fading is one thing. As said upthread, people come and go on the internet, sad though it may be. Taking the extra step of deliberately self-deleting first, though, makes it seem far more serious and pointed. I hope they weren't chased off left feeling bad about something or other.
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Post by wildfire2099 on Jun 29, 2023 9:41:43 GMT -5
In my experience, people that delete their accounts, instead of just not posting anymore, do it for one of two reasons. The first one (which doesn't really apply to our folks) is generally for drama... they want to make a point, have people beg them to come back, etc... such people general come and go on a regular basis.
I suspect for our friends it's most likely the 2nd common reason.... self-regulaton. If you decide you're spending too much time on a particular activity and need a break, or want to focus on something else.. deleting the account and making it a bit of effort to return can help focus on whatever it is they want to focus on instead.
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shaxper
CCF Site Custodian
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Post by shaxper on Jun 29, 2023 11:29:57 GMT -5
deleting the account and making it a bit of effort to return can help focus on whatever it is they want to focus on instead. The sad part is that deleting one's account disrupts so many old conversations that said person was a part of, removes old pm conversations, and generally annihilates one's personal history/legacy here. It's sad because, if this is done impulsively, there is no undelete option. There's absolutely no way to get any of it back again. If I had my way, there'd be a cool-off window. You click "delete account", the system asks if you're SURE, and if you say yes, it informs you that your account is temporarily inactve and you have twelve hours to cancel before the deletion is permanent. It would also ask if you want to provide a reason to the mod team so that they understand if there is something they could have/should have addressed better to make you want to stay. Maybe then a conversation would start before those twelve hours were up in which the member would feel better about staying. Generally speaking, the mod team doesn't know any better than anyone else why someone leaves or self-deletes.
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Post by wildfire2099 on Jun 29, 2023 11:42:55 GMT -5
yeah, I hear you.. I hate seeing some of those long term thread listed as being started by 'deleted' Maybe proboards needs a 'suspend' choice
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Post by majestic on Jun 29, 2023 14:22:39 GMT -5
In the early years of the forum when someone deleted an account the name stayed on posts.
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Post by badwolf on Jun 29, 2023 15:06:43 GMT -5
I've been feeling the same way as MRP for a while now. But I haven't finished my review thread yet.
I miss Supercat. And not just because I am a cat person.
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Post by Cei-U! on Jun 29, 2023 19:42:24 GMT -5
On a lighter note, my new automated bed was delivered and set up yesterday. It is surprisingly simple to operate and comfy as hell. I still can't quite manage to put myself to bed yet but my physical therapist and I are focusing on strengthening the necessary muscles so it should be possible in a month or two. Add that to my finally getting assigned a terrific, reliable caregiver and things are looking up in my world.
Cei-U! I summon the overdue good news!
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Post by codystarbuck on Jun 29, 2023 19:58:46 GMT -5
On a lighter note, my new automated bed was delivered and set up yesterday. It is surprisingly simple to operate and comfy as hell. I still can't quite manage to put myself to bed yet but my physical therapist and I are focusing on strengthening the necessary muscles so it should be possible in a month or two. Add that to my finally getting assigned a terrific, reliable caregiver and things are looking up in my world. Cei-U! I summon the overdue good news!
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Post by berkley on Jun 29, 2023 23:53:34 GMT -5
I've been feeling the same way as MRP for a while now. But I haven't finished my review thread yet. I miss Supercat. And not just because I am a cat person.
I missed that - I assumed that everyone just deleted their accounts without comment but MRP said why he was leaving?
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Jun 30, 2023 8:07:54 GMT -5
I've been feeling the same way as MRP for a while now. But I haven't finished my review thread yet. I miss Supercat. And not just because I am a cat person.
I missed that - I assumed that everyone just deleted their accounts without comment but MRP said why he was leaving? Yes. I hope all these fine folks come back eventually.
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Post by Icctrombone on Jun 30, 2023 9:08:28 GMT -5
I've been feeling the same way as MRP for a while now. But I haven't finished my review thread yet. I miss Supercat. And not just because I am a cat person.
I missed that - I assumed that everyone just deleted their accounts without comment but MRP said why he was leaving? I emailed him and he told me that he was experiencing a bit of social media burnout. He felt it was easier to delete so that he wouldn’t be tempted to check in. Supercat is a mystery.
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