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Post by tartanphantom on Oct 4, 2023 19:04:31 GMT -5
Ugh, first nosebleed of the season. Gonna be a long winter!
Hope you have a humidifier. They help.
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Oct 4, 2023 19:36:22 GMT -5
Ugh, first nosebleed of the season. Gonna be a long winter! Don’t move to the desert. Even a cold dessert like Idaho.
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Post by codystarbuck on Oct 4, 2023 23:33:22 GMT -5
Ugh, first nosebleed of the season. Gonna be a long winter!
Hope you have a humidifier. They help.
I live with one nearby, all winter. Hasn't been a problem for a while, but we have a frontal system moving through the area and it messes with my sinuses, sometimes. My dad occasionally had issues, in dry weather; but, i suffered a broken nose, when I was 6 and probably have some scarring in there, which has caused more issues as I have gotten older. Nothing serious, just enough to be a nuisance.
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Post by codystarbuck on Oct 4, 2023 23:35:55 GMT -5
Ugh, first nosebleed of the season. Gonna be a long winter! Don’t move to the desert. Even a cold dessert like Idaho. I'm in the Midwest; Spring Summer and Fall are usually not a problem; but winter can be. I keep a saline spray nearby, in winter, at work, especially since I work around paper. I have humidifiers in every room, at home, as needed.
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Post by Icctrombone on Oct 5, 2023 8:50:32 GMT -5
I was having a discussion with my wife about friendships. Do you think there’s a period or age when a person stops making new friendships? I think back on my life and most of my friends came from going to places on regular basis like work , school, church. I’m not sure how many new friends I’ve made in the last 20 years. What say you ?
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Oct 5, 2023 9:27:40 GMT -5
I was having a discussion with my wife about friendships. Do you think there’s a period or age when a person stops making new friendships? I think back on my life and most of my friends came from going to places on regular basis life work , school, church. I’m not sure how many new friends I’ve made in the last 20 years. What say you ? I think it's individual, but mostly I don't think that is true. My mother, for example, made a number of very good new friends when she moved in to a retirement community after she had largely lost contact with her old friends after she moved away from where she and my Dad had lived before he passed away.
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Post by driver1980 on Oct 5, 2023 9:37:05 GMT -5
I was having a discussion with my wife about friendships. Do you think there’s a period or age when a person stops making new friendships? I think back on my life and most of my friends came from going to places on regular basis life work , school, church. I’m not sure how many new friends I’ve made in the last 20 years. What say you ? For the most part, I don’t think it’s true. I made 2 new friends over the last 5-6 years, one at a book club I attended, and another through a mutual friend (who was a neighbour of mine).
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Oct 5, 2023 11:07:18 GMT -5
I was having a discussion with my wife about friendships. Do you think there’s a period or age when a person stops making new friendships? I think back on my life and most of my friends came from going to places on regular basis life work , school, church. I’m not sure how many new friends I’ve made in the last 20 years. What say you ? That's an interesting question. I think it depends on several things, and that different people may have radically different views on the subject. First, are we talking about casual friendship, or are we talking about brothers and mothers from another mother? Humans are social animals, and I think that most of us are at least open to the possibility of making new friends no matter how old we get. That being said, some people seem to thrive on establishing close bonds with new folks, while other people are more comfortable maintaining a polite distance -even from folks they like. I made many friends at school, to be sure. But after that enforced social bonding period was over, I made very few new friends. Oh, sure, I met plenty of folks whom I admire, whom I enjoy spending time with, whom I like to work or play sports with and whom I consider "friends"; but a certain emotional distance remains and I would not tell them about, say, my love life or my financial situation. The time we spend together is usually mission-focused, if you see what I mean. I also think that as we get older, as we get more emotionally independent and more set in our ways, we don't feel the lack of a ton of friends so sharply. That's especially true when one has a significant other and/or kids, since we feel love aplenty without ever leaving home. Making new friends at that point is more like a nice surprise than something we strive for. Still, it is a nice surprise. I remember a guy I met back in '98 or so, at a science fair in Virginia. We had been paired to act as judges and spent a few hours together, looking at what bright High School kids had done. We hit it off instantly and had so much fun together that people asked if we were brothers! A rare case of instant friendship, and it's too bad that we lost touch almost immediately (I lived a good hour away).
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on Oct 5, 2023 16:34:45 GMT -5
When I was young, my two brothers from another mother, friends both a bit older than me, as adults moved on. I never really got over that. I thought we would always be together and nothing could come between. Ironically it was women. After that other than having a few co-workers that I was friendly with that I would occasionally meet socially, I really never made friends. I got to be good friends with my wife's cousin's husband. We went to this local bar that was it own brewery back before every Joe in the world was brewing beer in their garage. They moved to Arizona. Online friends like ya'll here, the people I game with online and people I have met in discord servers, I consider friends, even though I have never met any of them in person. In my opinion I think it's because of my anxious attachment issues. I am always afraid that at some point the relationship will end. Inevitably they will get bored with me and find someone more exciting. Yay the fun of introversion. Just in the last year I had to say goodbye to two co-workers that I had formed a strong bond with. A friendship I would call it. So I am back to keeping people at arm's length because I am just burnt out of being abandoned. I don't resent the two that left the job because it bettered their lives and their family's lives. I can't hold that against them. Even people online I don't see any more. Their usernames are still on my friends list on my Xbox1 (which carried over from the Xbox 360 so that's 16 years of friend list history) and I haven't seem some of them online for many years. I know it's a fact of life that things change. People are either a blessing or a lesson. Why is for me the people that are a blessing are the ones that leave? That's why I just stay in my head and keep my heart to myself. It's less painful. Sorry, that was a bit heavier than I intended to comment.
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Post by Icctrombone on Oct 5, 2023 18:28:09 GMT -5
The zoom meetings that I host is my attempt to get to know the people here better. It’s the next step up from posting to an avatar.
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Post by codystarbuck on Oct 5, 2023 20:15:58 GMT -5
I've always been a more solitary person, though I always had friends. I tended more to a couple of really close friends and then a widening circle, through school. At college, it was another small circle of friends who got together to watch Doctor Who, week nights, in the dorm tv lounge, and which grew into hanging out together, going to movies, eating out, etc. I also had my shipmates, in NROTC, though you tended to be friendlier with your own class group. Even then, though, I wasn't what I would call "close" with any of them. Friendly and sharing experiences; but, it was closer to a work relationship, mixed with a fraternal order. In the military, not so much. Being a supply officer meant being somewhat apart from the other officers, due to the specialized nature of my work, and my training beforehand. That left the senior supply officer as the only one sharing similar experiences, but rank created a separation there. The junior officers were tighter; but I was never close, with them. Our department heads were dysfunctional. When I went to the destroyer squadron staff, I would say I was closer to more of them than on my previous ship; but rank created separations and it was still more of a work relationship.
When I went to Barnes & Noble and opened the first store I worked in, that original bunch stayed pretty tight, while we were together. Some of it was due to bad leaders, causing us to bond for survival. Shared interests helped and we used to go to films and other outings, ingroups, unaffiliated with work. Through that, I made a few other friends, including one of my closest friends ever...though that relationship ended up like the plot to a Kevin Smith film (I'll leave you to figure out which one; hint, it wasn't Zack & Miri Make a Porno). As I got promoted upward and that group broke up, the crowd dwindled, though I remained close to several of them. I lost three of them to cancer. When I transferred stores, I was brought into a new team and a staff that was much younger and it tended to create distance. Same in subsequent jobs, since, though we have done some work functions, at my current job and we are a tight group and they were all there for me through Barb's hospitalization and death.
Being in leadership and management positions has always required me to keep a certain detachment, to do my job, but I am also pretty comfortable with my own company and always have been. Here, it is more of a place to hang out and discuss shared interests; but, it's a pretty tight community and I consider many here to be as much friends as others with whom I had physical contact (in a social sense...not a social disease sense)
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Post by codystarbuck on Oct 11, 2023 21:56:38 GMT -5
In memory of Keith Giffen, I updated my avatar to correct his and Kevin Maguire's omission, for the Justice League..... The correct title should be JLAja!
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Post by Icctrombone on Oct 13, 2023 13:29:26 GMT -5
I'm watching a video of the first day of the NYCCC for 2023. It's like being there. The video poster is walking the floor and just live streaming the entire floor. I'm so glad that I didn't go again after 2018. Seems like walking through a Museum. I know there are many items to buy but most of it doesn't interest me. I haven't gotten to artists alley in the video yet, or comic dealers. The time I went there were no more than 5 ! comic dealers. Maybe they should stop calling it a comic con.
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Post by Calidore on Oct 14, 2023 17:35:42 GMT -5
Chili Lime flavored Sun Chips are dangerous! Good grief. That bag should have lasted much longer.
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Post by Batflunkie on Oct 14, 2023 17:41:42 GMT -5
Chili Lime flavored Sun Chips are dangerous! Good grief. That bag should have lasted much longer. The Garden Salsa ones are my absolute favorites. I used to be big into the Harvest Cheddar, but no longer
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