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Post by thwhtguardian on Sept 1, 2016 19:43:40 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. Man, that's crazy. I remember you had said you guys were going through a rough patch earlier in the year but I had hoped that things were working themselves out. Stay strong man.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 20:52:47 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. I understand what you are going through and I feel awful having anyone going through this process and trying their best with the kids and all. Please keep us in the loop and hopefully things will work out. Man, this is so sudden and I know that you are trying your best to keep it all together. I'm loss of words ... Shax.
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on Sept 1, 2016 21:49:07 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. I remember saying to someone that said that "I'm sorry" and their response was "It's for the best of both of us so dont be sorry". It's always made me think about not voicing my knee jerk reaction of " I'm sorry". So I really don't know what to say shax.
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Sept 1, 2016 22:18:53 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. Shax, I hope for the best for every member of your family. In particular for your children. They need the reassurance that they are loved and that none of this is their fault. I know you know that...and I have no doubts about your abilities. Just a reminder. Because they truly are what matters. I wish you smooth sailing, Buddy.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2016 22:25:36 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. Don't know what to say...
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Post by Ish Kabbible on Sept 2, 2016 3:23:45 GMT -5
Your a good man Shax. You'll make it through this and find a way for it to all work out. Have faith in yourself
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Sept 2, 2016 7:17:33 GMT -5
Rough seas ahead, but you're one of the best captains I know... you'll lead the ship to port, I'm sure. Any way we can help, friend, let us know. And when unhappiness looms, take heart in remembering that you mean the world to your kids, and that will never change.
Standing by you, brother.
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Post by brutalis on Sept 2, 2016 8:19:21 GMT -5
Be strong and keep moving ahead Shaxper. My best friend just had same thing occur this summer. Him, wife and 2 teenage boys and me spent wonderful family week vacation in April at Disneyland and Sea-world. 2 weeks later he calls asking if he can stay with me awhile as wife just told him wants a divorce as feels they have grown too far apart. Shocked him to the core and took awhile to adjust but now he has moved into an apartment awaiting the divorce and chooses to not dwell on the why's or how this happened and just push ahead and continue living life and loving his children. Sincerely hoping you can hold the good times in your heart with no regrets and enjoy what the future fun and life delivers your way...
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Post by Prince Hal on Sept 2, 2016 9:22:02 GMT -5
Shax, there's never a good time for something like this to happen, but September, with you and your kids going back to school? Too much.
Still, faced with such an emotional blow, remember the shark's mantra:"Keep moving; otherwise, you die."
It's a tough slog at times, but keep thinking of your kids and how difficult it is for them. The other stresses and problems become less significant.
Can't tell you how bad this makes me feel. You're a good man, and will continue to be.
We're all here for you, my friend.
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Post by Confessor on Sept 2, 2016 11:35:34 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. Oh man, that's such a shame. I was only thinking about you guys a few days ago, remembering that a while back you had said that things were getting a bit rocky between you. I was thinking about that and really hoping that things were working out better now. I'm really sorry to hear about this, shax. As other's have already said, I guess you and your wife just have to work out the future with your kid's best interests as your number one priority. This will be a trying time for your all of you, but it'll be especially hard for your kids. Stay strong brother. I wish there were words I could say that would ease your pain, but I can't. All I can do is tell you that I'm here for you, if you need me. I'm sure that goes for all us regulars here.
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Post by Rob Allen on Sept 2, 2016 13:04:36 GMT -5
Joining the chorus - good wishes for you and willingness to help and/or just listen anytime.
I have some relevant experience - my first wife decided to leave in July 1990. We had no kids, though - that makes the situation pretty different.
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Post by shaxper on Sept 2, 2016 15:54:59 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. Means a lot.
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Post by berkley on Sept 2, 2016 16:21:46 GMT -5
Anyone planning to go see the total eclipse next year? It's far from here but I might drive down to Kentucky or South Carolina to have a look... How come you're not flying your Learjet, like you did to the eclipse in Nova Scotia back in the 70s? Because, as we all know, You're so vain, You probably think this post is about you, You're so vain (so vain!) I bet you think this post is about you, Don't you! Don't you! Don't you!
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Post by berkley on Sept 2, 2016 16:28:47 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. This is probably not the right time to say it, but from some of the things you've mentioned here in the past perhaps it will all be for the best in the long run, as far as you and your partner are concerned. All best wishes for you and your family.
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Sept 2, 2016 17:11:52 GMT -5
Anyone planning to go see the total eclipse next year? It's far from here but I might drive down to Kentucky or South Carolina to have a look... How come you're not flying your Learjet, like you did to the eclipse in Nova Scotia back in the 70s? Because, as we all know, You're so vain, You probably think this post is about you, You're so vain (so vain!) I bet you think this post is about you, Don't you! Don't you! Don't you! I lent the keys to the kids, and since a thankless child is sharper than a serpent's tooth, no more Lear jet.
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