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Post by Gene on Sept 5, 2016 8:29:21 GMT -5
Happy Labor Day to everyone in the U.S.!
Go out and hug a union member!
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Post by thwhtguardian on Sept 5, 2016 8:41:41 GMT -5
My cat just scared away a bobcat. Well, it thinks it did because it seems to be looking pretty pleased with itself bu in truth the bobcat looked more confused that my cat was freaking out at the window and that my girlfriend and I were staring at it and then just kind of backed away into a bush and vanished. I wish I had thought to take a picture, it was pretty cool even if my cat screaming and slamming against my bedroom window woke me up. I hope you gave it a big treat, even if its heroic deed is only in its mind. I did indeed.
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Post by Mormel on Sept 5, 2016 10:39:19 GMT -5
Mormel Fails At English, Episode 43:
At work today, while discussing different types of medicine with a Polish co-worker who was feeling a bit under the weather, I referred to the pill that is rectally administered, as a 'repository'. The word I was looking for was SUPpository. Wah-wah-wahhh.
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Post by Prince Hal on Sept 5, 2016 10:43:01 GMT -5
Mormel Fails At English, Episode 43: At work today, while discussing different types of medicine with a Polish co-worker who was feeling a bit under the weather, I referred to the pill that is rectally administered, as a 'repository'. The word I was looking for was SUPpository. Wah-wah-wahhh. Well, the rectum is the repository. You were close.
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Post by Roquefort Raider on Sept 5, 2016 13:30:26 GMT -5
Mormel Fails At English, Episode 43: At work today, while discussing different types of medicine with a Polish co-worker who was feeling a bit under the weather, I referred to the pill that is rectally administered, as a 'repository'. The word I was looking for was SUPpository. Wah-wah-wahhh. Well, the rectum is the repository. You were close. I suppose.
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Post by Mormel on Sept 5, 2016 13:55:03 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2016 14:19:31 GMT -5
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Post by hondobrode on Sept 5, 2016 16:13:52 GMT -5
Hondo you feel that quake this morning? I blew it off as my imagination or a realistic dream and went back to sleep. But the news confirms the epicenter was in Pawnee. We were out of state and very tired, so we didn't feel it. Centered in Pawnee, home of Chester Gould, creator of Dick Tracy. Governor Fallin declared a state of emergency for that county. Did you guys feel it ?
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Post by hondobrode on Sept 5, 2016 16:24:29 GMT -5
So my wife has just informed me that she'll be leaving me in October. Came as a surprise, let me tell you. Still just trying to process this while also being there for my kids and trying to keep things together. Not really looking for sympathy, nor anyone to be angry on my behalf. Just didn't know what else to do, so I thought I'd post it here and see if it feels more real to me now. Shax, Like everyone else here, I'm very sad to hear this. I've been through this twice. The first time involved our 4 kids. Be strong for them and love them as much as you can. Looking back I can say that I was oblivious to some things, including my actions and inactions. What hurt the worst was the lack of communication and honesty on her part. I tried to explore all options, including counseling, but she refused them all. I know you tried to keep the family together and work things out. It's not what life throws at you, but rather, how you respond, learn, and grow from it. Thanks includes your kids as well. Though it was hard on all of us, I think in the long run my kids came out of it ok and stronger for it. My positive thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on Sept 5, 2016 17:29:10 GMT -5
Hondo you feel that quake this morning? I blew it off as my imagination or a realistic dream and went back to sleep. But the news confirms the epicenter was in Pawnee. We were out of state and very tired, so we didn't feel it. Centered in Pawnee, home of Chester Gould, creator of Dick Tracy. Governor Fallin declared a state of emergency for that county. Did you guys feel it ? I did. My wife and kids slept through it. I just went back to bed and blew it off as a dream or whatever. All I did was check the front door since it sounded like someone banging on the door. It wasnt untill a coworker texted me (and woke me up again ugh) that I knew it was a quake. My wife said her Facebook feed was lit up with "oh won't someone think of the children" posts blaming fracking. Like man hasn't been drilling thousand feet holes in the ground since the turn of the 20th century. Lol. Another reason I don't use Facebook. ;-)
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Post by shaxper on Sept 5, 2016 21:25:39 GMT -5
My wife gave me a book to read tonight about abuse. I read all four hundred pages in a sitting and we talked after. Despite my absolute best intentions, hard work, and self-sacrifice over these past 17 years, I can now see how I was largely responsible for her unhappiness. I get it. I think she's still going, and I can't help but think the gods are laughing at me helping me to see this now, when it's finally too late to do anything about it, but I get it now. And weirdly, that makes me able to love her more than I ever have before.
Don't know how we're going to do this separation thing, and I doubt she's ever coming back if she goes out that door, but at least I can let go of anger and find some sort of solace in understanding what is happening.
Thanks for your continued support, everyone. Please wish for her happiness too. After 17 years of pain, she deserves it.
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Post by Prince Hal on Sept 5, 2016 21:35:07 GMT -5
My wife gave me a book to read tonight about abuse. I read all four hundred pages in a sitting and we talked after. Despite my absolute best intentions, hard work, and self-sacrifice over these past 17 years, I can now see how I was largely responsible for her unhappiness. I get it. I think she's still going, and I can't help but think the gods are laughing at me helping me to see this now, when it's finally too late to do anything about it, but I get it now. And weirdly, that makes me able to love her more than I ever have before. Don't know how we're going to do this separation thing, and I doubt she's ever coming back if she goes out that door, but at least I can let go of anger and find some sort of solace in understanding what is happening. Thanks for your continued support, everyone. Please wish for her happiness too. After 17 years of pain, she deserves it. Really, shax? Not asking you to share, but I'm finding it difficult to accept that you have an abusive personality or that you struck your wife or were anything but carinfg based on the person we see here every day. Where was that book even a few months ago, or back when all this started to hit the fan and you guys were in counseling? Look, sure I get that it's a two-way street and that we all have other sides to our selves, but I can't believe you're the mustache-twirling irredeemable villain here. And I know we all only know each other as keystrokes on a screen, but, Jesus, can all of us here be that wrong about you? You're one of the good guys. Of course, I wish nothing but calm and peace for your whole family, but don't shoulder everything here. Just doesn't seem to make sense. I hope I don't sound overly defensive about you or as if I can't accept that your wife has a story to tell, too; nobody's perfect, but take a minute to gather in everything and try not to overreact to what you read in one book, okay?
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Post by shaxper on Sept 5, 2016 21:59:20 GMT -5
My wife gave me a book to read tonight about abuse. I read all four hundred pages in a sitting and we talked after. Despite my absolute best intentions, hard work, and self-sacrifice over these past 17 years, I can now see how I was largely responsible for her unhappiness. I get it. I think she's still going, and I can't help but think the gods are laughing at me helping me to see this now, when it's finally too late to do anything about it, but I get it now. And weirdly, that makes me able to love her more than I ever have before. Don't know how we're going to do this separation thing, and I doubt she's ever coming back if she goes out that door, but at least I can let go of anger and find some sort of solace in understanding what is happening. Thanks for your continued support, everyone. Please wish for her happiness too. After 17 years of pain, she deserves it. Really, shax? Not asking you to share, but I'm finding it difficult to accept that you have an abusive personality or that you struck your wife or were anything but carinfg based on the person we see here every day. Where was that book even a few months ago, or back when all this started to hit the fan and you guys were in counseling? Look, sure I get that it's a two-way street and that we all have other sides to our selves, but I can't believe you're the mustache-twirling irredeemable villain here. And I know we all only know each other as keystrokes on a screen, but, Jesus, can all of us here be that wrong about you? You're one of the good guys. Of course, I wish nothing but calm and peace for your whole family, but don't shoulder everything here. Just doesn't seem to make sense. I hope I don't sound overly defensive about you or as if I can't accept that your wife has a story to tell, too; nobody's perfect, but take a minute to gather in everything and try not to overreact to what you read in one book, okay? I hear you and I hear your concern, Hal. It's appreciated. No, I never hit her. Emotionally abusive, and even then, it's a subtle thing. My co-dependence played badly on her own past life experiences, and it then compounded from there -- her getting hurt and withdrawn, and that making me more demanding and more frustrated with her. I'm not a villain. I didn't understand what I was doing, but it messed her up a lot. I only wish she'd known how to help me understand earlier, before it was too late, or that therapy had gotten us there. A friend of a friend gave her the book just the other week, long after she'd made up her mind, but before she'd told me. I really have two choices for how to proceed: 1. Understand her pain, understand why what's happening is happening, draw the best comfort I can from that, and do the best I can for her, for myself, and for our kids. 2. Deny it, fight it, try to disprove it, live resentfully. That's not for me.
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Post by Prince Hal on Sept 5, 2016 23:00:39 GMT -5
Really, shax? Not asking you to share, but I'm finding it difficult to accept that you have an abusive personality or that you struck your wife or were anything but carinfg based on the person we see here every day. Where was that book even a few months ago, or back when all this started to hit the fan and you guys were in counseling? Look, sure I get that it's a two-way street and that we all have other sides to our selves, but I can't believe you're the mustache-twirling irredeemable villain here. And I know we all only know each other as keystrokes on a screen, but, Jesus, can all of us here be that wrong about you? You're one of the good guys. Of course, I wish nothing but calm and peace for your whole family, but don't shoulder everything here. Just doesn't seem to make sense. I hope I don't sound overly defensive about you or as if I can't accept that your wife has a story to tell, too; nobody's perfect, but take a minute to gather in everything and try not to overreact to what you read in one book, okay? I hear you and I hear your concern, Hal. It's appreciated. No, I never hit her. Emotionally abusive, and even then, it's a subtle thing. My co-dependence played badly on her own past life experiences, and it then compounded from there -- her getting hurt and withdrawn, and that making me more demanding and more frustrated with her. I'm not a villain. I didn't understand what I was doing, but it messed her up a lot. I only wish she'd known how to help me understand earlier, before it was too late, or that therapy had gotten us there. A friend of a friend gave her the book just the other week, long after she'd made up her mind, but before she'd told me. I really have two choices for how to proceed: 1. Understand her pain, understand why what's happening is happening, draw the best comfort I can from that, and do the best I can for her, for myself, and for our kids. 2. Deny it, fight it, try to disprove it, live resentfully. That's not for me. No, you've gotta go with #1, of course. I'd expect no less from you. Not to be trite, but a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. Especially a dad. We're all in your corner, Shax.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 0:09:40 GMT -5
Shax, I understand and I support Prince Hal's message to you.
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