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Post by Icctrombone on Sept 18, 2016 20:14:56 GMT -5
Hope you feel better Sabongero.
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Post by BigPapaJoe on Sept 19, 2016 11:41:17 GMT -5
I moved to Macau about two months ago. I believe I talked about it before. After being a while...I guess i feel indifferent about it all. Macau isn't a bad place to live. There is definitely a cap on exciting things to do I'll say if you're an outgoing person, but that isn't necessarily me. I've usually stayed home and tried improving my drawing skills in preparation for building a penciling portfolio for comic books. My wife and her family have been generous in essentially footing the bills and housing us for the time being until we move into our own place. We have the place setup, and our items we shipped overseas finally arrived. Just need furniture. Ever since we got back from the road trip in the USA, we've been at my mom in law's house. As I've previously chronicled, she's a very kind woman, but at the end of the day due to not only the language barrier and just having an in-law within my living space...it has been very hard to deal with. I don't know what it is. I already like a place that I live at to be my own personal domain. When my wife was gone away for two months in March and April I had the house to myself. It was fantastic. I didn't feel obligated to have to talk to anyone at certain times of the day. I ended up losing the most weight I had ever lost within that time frame. The only thing that sucked was that I was in the process of moving, which I hated, so that stuff had to be taken care of. Now I'm here and...it's just a really uncomfortable situation. Especially since my wife's mother is very house oriented if that makes sense. She cleans everyday, cooks immediately for everyone when she gets home, washes everyone's clothes. My wife says that is just here way, but I don't want to feel obligated to do certain things at certain times every single day. I'm usually at my desk working, but if she randomly comes in and starts cleaning...it just really annoys me. I don't dare say complain about anything, because what I'd be complaining about is dumb. It's her house, and we're being catered to. I suppose I didn't think I'd be living here this long. I guess I want to be king of my castle again. I want to have the ability to sleep in on a certain day without feeling like I may be judged. Or I want to walk naked in my house every once in a while. Or I want to stock my own fridge with my own groceries. My wife is teaching at a looking class some days at nights, so dinner time is especially awkward since we can't really communicate. All in all I think this is what my wife wanted in part, a family community. She's always grown up on an island. I wan an only child and didn't mind living alone when I had the chance. I actually liked it. Of course living alone is a luxury for the folks with the money. My wife is currently making more than I am since I'm taking time off to pursue another career path. Things will probably change once we get into our own place, but that could take a few more months. I'm just guessing based on the way speed has moved things so far.
We recently took a trip to Taiwan for my 29th birthday. Came back a few days ago. I shouldn't have went. Don't get me wrong, Taiwan was nice. But seeing it I kept thinking of how it would be if I lived there alone. Would I get a bigger dose of the serenity I felt when I visited for just a few short days. Or was it just a false perception of the green grass on the other side since I was on vacation. I'll potentially never know. By the way my wife wants to start trying to have a child. I chirped about this here a long time ago, but we did try a couple times already. I felt like since she was already 28 that I shouldn't continue to deny her the right to have a child. After that trip that I'm back on the other side of the fence again. I know this is a dangerous game I shouldn't be playing. To be honest I'm still scared of parenthood. My father was a bum and never really in my life. I wouldn't want that cycle to continue with a child of my own. Taking care of myself is already a big enough challenge as it is. My wife keeps telling me that we'd have all of these resources to help take care of a child, including family and money. But that really isn't important to me. A human being is still a human being and you have to dedicate time and energy to it. At least that is what I always thought.
Well...I wrote this just because I really, really, really don't want to talk about this with anyone I know personally. Just some strangers on the internet, which ironically gives me more solace. Don't feel you need to reply. Guess I want to get this off my chest in way where I really didn't have to. At least not in the world of the real.
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Post by Pharozonk on Sept 19, 2016 16:55:49 GMT -5
Glad to see you back, sabongero.
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Post by Rob Allen on Sept 19, 2016 19:14:07 GMT -5
Here's an interesting article about the revival of the GI Joe toys in the 1980s, including interviews with several of the people involved: www.hollywoodreporter.com/heat-vision/gi-joe-tv-show-oral-928423"G.I. Joe: The Story of the Cartoon That Sold Wartime Heroics to a Generation of Kids Sep 15 by Aaron Couch The cast looks back at the series that changed the toy business forever and left a complicated political legacy: "I'm a liberal and always have been," says creator Ron Friedman. "I felt that the Joes would be liberal and the Cobra people should not be." In 1982, G.I. Joe was brought out of retirement thanks to a brilliant marketing campaign executed with military precision. ... Friedman and some of his cast were political liberals, who have complex feelings about the show's portrayal of war and its legacy. But they ultimately see the series as a force for good in the lives of the children who watched it, with its positive messages of inclusion, self-sacrifice and heroism. Here, Heat Vision catches up with the creator and stars of the series, with many of the actors slated to appear Sept. 17 at a Long Beach Comic Con reunion panel and also set to hit the road for a tour."
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Post by hondobrode on Sept 20, 2016 0:47:24 GMT -5
Haven't seen you here in a long time Sabongero but am glad more than anything that your health is better.
We forget how fragile our health, and life, can be.
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Post by hondobrode on Sept 20, 2016 0:57:19 GMT -5
BigPapaJoeI can somewhat relate. My second wife was Chinese. She spoke Mandarin, English and German. I only speak English. We had lots of business dealings with other Chinese in Southern California. At first I was somewhat offended that they didn't speak English around me, those that could. The language barrier can be a real factor. I never did visit China with her. She talked about us moving there someday and living on 12 cents on the dollar, but there's lots of other reasons I didn't want to. Glad you can open up to us and kind of vent. I get what you mean about your own space though. Your food in the fridge, being at ease to do what you want, when you want, why you want, and yeah, walking around in your underwear or whatever.
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Post by Rob Allen on Sept 20, 2016 17:05:08 GMT -5
PapaShogun, it sounds like you're an introvert who isn't getting enough time alone. It's a very real need, and you owe it to yourself to fulfill it. Coping with other people takes a certain kind of energy, and your supply of that energy can be depleted. You and everyone around you will be happier if you get to recharge yourself.
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Post by wickedmountain on Sept 21, 2016 1:12:36 GMT -5
How is everyone? Hope everyone is doing well. I had kidney failure this summer, and undergoing dialysis three times a week. I am somewhat strong enough to get back to being an active and I am looking forward to being an active member here and reading and reviewing classic comic books again. I just wanted to let everyone know watch your health and make sure your sugar level and blood pressure level is well maintained is because we are in our middle age and this is when our health has to really be watched. Have a good upcoming new season everyone. Sorry to hear about your health issues glad you are doing better now .
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Post by wickedmountain on Sept 21, 2016 1:13:53 GMT -5
Hi everyone it's been quite awhile this year has been rough for me but I'm okay hope you all are to .
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Post by Icctrombone on Sept 21, 2016 1:42:59 GMT -5
Welcome back wickedmountain.
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Post by BigPapaJoe on Sept 21, 2016 3:18:31 GMT -5
PapaShogun, it sounds like you're an introvert who isn't getting enough time alone. It's a very real need, and you owe it to yourself to fulfill it. Coping with other people takes a certain kind of energy, and your supply of that energy can be depleted. You and everyone around you will be happier if you get to recharge yourself. I will have to find some kind of way. Right now it's going to the gym where I am absolutely alone. Of course my wife is now joining me on workouts. So even that is going way. And it's not just having alone time, but it's also being catered to. Which is starting to be more annoying. My mother in law likes to do dishes as soon as they are dirty, whereas I might leave them in the sink for a while as I work. But I feel obligated to do them as soon as they get dirty if she's in the house. Or...she'll come in and refill my water bottle with water because it might be half empty and put in the refrigerator so it gets cold. My goodness if I run out of cold water the world will not end. Just let it be.
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Post by Wild Card on Sept 21, 2016 3:42:11 GMT -5
Hi everyone it's been quite awhile this year has been rough for me but I'm okay hope you all are to . I'm sorry it's been a rough year for you. I hope things start getting better for you. *hug*
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Post by The Captain on Sept 21, 2016 8:51:48 GMT -5
I had a very disturbing experience last night during dinner. I slow-cooked a pork shoulder in a crock pot for pulled pork sandwiches, and to go with it, I made some coleslaw. While I was prepping the coleslaw, the bag (I didn't have the time or inclination to deal with an actual cabbage last night) tore and the mix went all over the counter, so I scooped it up and put it into the bowl and thought nothing of it.
While eating one of the sandwiches, I felt something hard in my mouth, so I picked it out to examine it. At first I thought it was a piece of bone from the pork, but upon closer inspection, it was a tooth. Not mine, luckily, but we figured that it was my older daughter's, which she'd lost it a few days prior. My wife had placed it on a paper towel on the counter to dry out before tucking it away in a keepsake box with the rest of our girls' teeth, and said paper towel was right next to where I was making dinner. In my rush to clean up the spilled coleslaw mix before heading out to pick up my daughter from swim team practice, I must have gathered it up and dropped it into the bowl with the other ingredients.
Yeah, it was as gross as it sounds, but on the plus side, I'm thankful it wasn't one of mine.
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Post by Prince Hal on Sept 21, 2016 9:41:49 GMT -5
I had a very disturbing experience last night during dinner. I slow-cooked a pork shoulder in a crock pot for pulled pork sandwiches, and to go with it, I made some coleslaw. While I was prepping the coleslaw, the bag (I didn't have the time or inclination to deal with an actual cabbage last night) tore and the mix went all over the counter, so I scooped it up and put it into the bowl and thought nothing of it. While eating one of the sandwiches, I felt something hard in my mouth, so I picked it out to examine it. At first I thought it was a piece of bone from the pork, but upon closer inspection, it was a tooth. Not mine, luckily, but we figured that it was my older daughter's, which she'd lost it a few days prior. My wife had placed it on a paper towel on the counter to dry out before tucking it away in a keepsake box with the rest of our girls' teeth, and said paper towel was right next to where I was making dinner. In my rush to clean up the spilled coleslaw mix before heading out to pick up my daughter from swim team practice, I must have gathered it up and dropped it into the bowl with the other ingredients. Yeah, it was as gross as it sounds, but on the plus side, I'm thankful it wasn't one of mine. "Attend the tale of Sweeney Todd..."
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Post by The Captain on Sept 21, 2016 9:58:41 GMT -5
PapaShogun, it sounds like you're an introvert who isn't getting enough time alone. It's a very real need, and you owe it to yourself to fulfill it. Coping with other people takes a certain kind of energy, and your supply of that energy can be depleted. You and everyone around you will be happier if you get to recharge yourself. Agree with this completely. I'm an introvert myself, and if I'm not getting enough alone time, I'm horribly out of sorts. It was particularly rough this summer, having my girls at home with me all day every day and me not working. I was irritable and depressed most of the time, but since they've gone back to school and I have my days to myself again while looking for work, my mood has greatly improved even though my job situation has not. Hang in there, PapaShogun, and take time for yourself for your own wellbeing.
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