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Post by Jesse on Oct 24, 2017 14:43:07 GMT -5
I seem to recall a thread about the depictions of real life people in comics (celebrities, political figures, etc) but I may be recalling the old board as I can't find it with the search function.
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Post by Rob Allen on Oct 24, 2017 15:50:26 GMT -5
Kurt, so sorry to hear about your aunt.
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Oct 24, 2017 16:11:25 GMT -5
I seem to recall a thread about the depictions of real life people in comics (celebrities, political figures, etc) but I may be recalling the old board as I can't find it with the search function. If I have one complaint about this site it's that the search function is near useless. Which is a small complaint overall.
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Post by Jesse on Oct 24, 2017 16:25:01 GMT -5
If I have one complaint about this site it's that the search function is near useless. Which is a small complaint overall. I generally find it works pretty well it's just my ability to recall the actual name of threads that I find lacking.
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Post by DE Sinclair on Oct 24, 2017 21:47:03 GMT -5
Sorry for the loss of your aunt, Kurt.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2017 17:33:32 GMT -5
Saw this mash up of King Crimson album art and Steranko posted by an old studio mate of mine... -M
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2017 17:45:15 GMT -5
Sharing this from Mike Mignola, if you happen to be in the San Francisco area, check this out... -M
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Post by Rob Allen on Oct 26, 2017 18:43:33 GMT -5
This may be of interest; I found it recently:
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Post by BigPapaJoe on Oct 27, 2017 8:00:35 GMT -5
So...I live close to Hong Kong. I'm 30 and live with my wife, her mother in law, and our new son. Our first child. It's been a year living here. I've visited several times before, but now I actually live here. Did it mostly for my wife who is the bread winner between both of us. I haven't worked in a while sad to say. My career plans just aren't materializing as I'd hope they would. My wife's family has supported my well-being in ways I'm not sure I can ever repay.
All of that being said, I've suffered bouts of depression and hopelessness. About six months ago I was even ready to catch the bus so to speak. I feel like I was closer than I ever was actually. Then I thought of my son to be born son. I never grew up with a father. He was a loser and a deadbeat overall. I've said to myself no matter how things go for my life I can't let my child go through the same thing.
I've tried to go to the gym just to keep myself in shape/or try to get in shape. But I just can't seem to stick to a routine. I did for a month, and then mentally gave up. I never have with anything, and I think that is why I've never really accomplished anything I'd consider noteworthy for myself. I could never see the bigger picture.
At times I also just need to get away. I live in a crowded house and it's always noisy. It just gets on my nerves. Hate to sound mean, but my wife is just relentless sometimes in nagging. I can't stand it. We have another place which we plan to move into, but it's already been a year and I'm still stuck in a place where I can't seem to buy a day of peace and quiet. It's actually not my child that even contributes to this. I feel like I can tolerate that. It's just...the nagging...and talking...
For the last week I'm supposed to have been going to the gym for a couple hours. In reality I've been going to our new vacant house just to get some peace and quiet for a while. Eating junk food, playing games, and really just messing around while not being productive. Obviously this is just a low point for me.
So...yeah. I don't know what tying this out will do for me ultimately. But I do feel like this place has people that give honest feedback while not ripping someone's head off. Maybe a response will inspire me to stop thinking negatively, which I've been doing and I know isn't healthy. It does comfort me though sad to say.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2017 10:46:52 GMT -5
BigPapaJoe I don't know if this will help... I was in a low place 4 years ago. I had a heart attack. My brother-in-law (& best friend) was diagnosed with cancer at the same time. I lost my job. All in a 2 month period. At that time I wished I had died instead of surviving my heart attack. I had to have a reason to want to recover. It was my brother-in-law. He was fighting to live. He needed my support. So I had to push myself to be able to help him. In 6 months my life turned around. Unfortunately my brother-in-law died 18 months later. But he & I got each other thru some dark times. But having to "help" someone else enabled me to look beyond myself & keep going. You need to find that reason that will push you on the really bad days. It may be another person. It may be a goal that you want to achieve. It won't happen overnight. Try & find whatever that something is. Michael
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Post by impulse on Oct 27, 2017 11:00:14 GMT -5
So...I live close to Hong Kong. I'm 30 and live with my wife, her mother in law, and our new son. Our first child. It's been a year living here. I've visited several times before, but now I actually live here. Did it mostly for my wife who is the bread winner between both of us. I haven't worked in a while sad to say. My career plans just aren't materializing as I'd hope they would. My wife's family has supported my well-being in ways I'm not sure I can ever repay. All of that being said, I've suffered bouts of depression and hopelessness. About six months ago I was even ready to catch the bus so to speak. I feel like I was closer than I ever was actually. Then I thought of my son to be born son. I never grew up with a father. He was a loser and a deadbeat overall. I've said to myself no matter how things go for my life I can't let my child go through the same thing. I've tried to go to the gym just to keep myself in shape/or try to get in shape. But I just can't seem to stick to a routine. I did for a month, and then mentally gave up. I never have with anything, and I think that is why I've never really accomplished anything I'd consider noteworthy for myself. I could never see the bigger picture. At times I also just need to get away. I live in a crowded house and it's always noisy. It just gets on my nerves. Hate to sound mean, but my wife is just relentless sometimes in nagging. I can't stand it. We have another place which we plan to move into, but it's already been a year and I'm still stuck in a place where I can't seem to buy a day of peace and quiet. It's actually not my child that even contributes to this. I feel like I can tolerate that. It's just...the nagging...and talking... For the last week I'm supposed to have been going to the gym for a couple hours. In reality I've been going to our new vacant house just to get some peace and quiet for a while. Eating junk food, playing games, and really just messing around while not being productive. Obviously this is just a low point for me. So...yeah. I don't know what tying this out will do for me ultimately. But I do feel like this place has people that give honest feedback while not ripping someone's head off. Maybe a response will inspire me to stop thinking negatively, which I've been doing and I know isn't healthy. It does comfort me though sad to say. PapaShogun, I see this, and I felt compelled to reply, and I wanted to. First off, good on you for reaching out and getting it out. Sometimes just typing it out is the first step toward healing. So, first, GREAT and THANK YOU! Good on you for wanting to do right and be there for your son. I've known many people who suffered with depression and mental illness, and I know for those going through it it can feel very isolating and alone, and sometimes they can feel like they are burdening their loved ones and/or not realize how it affects them. You do not live in a bubble, and despite what you want to think, if you were to "catch that bus" you'd be leaving a gaping hole of devastation in your wake. I don't say that to guilt or shame you. I just want to remind you of the context and stakes in case you can't always see them yourself, but it sounds like you do! Second, your situation sounds very isolating. The gym was a great instinct, but it can be very hard to self motivate especially when feeling isolated without social contact. On that note, I have a recommendation to kill two birds with one stone. I have no idea if they have this in the format I mean over there, but you should find an English-speaking personal trainer and sign up for at least 2-3 days a week. Working out is 100x easier when you have someone to structure your workouts, keep you accountable, and to have social investment with. That was one of the best parts of my life when I was going through some stuff, man. Third, I'd definitely recommend trying to find some social activities over there. Not sure if there is something like meetup.com over there, but getting out of your house is vital, especially with how stressful and chaotic yours sounds. Fourth, I firmly believe personal time is vital as an introvert myself. Not to say it's not fun to be social, but alone is how I recharge my batteries. Is there any way you can setup some time alone with your wife? Or do like you're doing now and just get out of the house at certain times. Go somewhere to meditate? Take yoga? Join a running club? Go draw in a park? Do something. Fifth - I'm less sure how to advise you regarding a nagging and henpecking wife. I am not sure how much of it is individual versus cultural differences. If she is reasonable and open, can you guys formalize some type of list and schedule of "honey do" tasks versus free time? Especially if you're out of work spending all that time at home without structure may be very overwhelming and feeding you situation. Having a schedule of what you do when may give you some needed structure. Kind of a tangent to this, I recommend the book the Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg. It can help you make some changes stick and get some positive momentum going. In any case, thanks again for reaching out. I am happy to help however I can, as i know the many other good folks here are. Keep us posted, stay connected, we've got your back man.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2017 12:05:56 GMT -5
BigPapaJoe to add to what impulse brought up... Being an introvert means we do NEED alone time to recharge. However that can be dangerous as we tend to isolate ourselves. Be conscious of that. I have struggled throughout my life with bouts of depression. The best thing for me was to set a goal to work towards & once I hit that goal set another one. I always have to have a goal to shoot for to keep going & stay focused. It can be as simple as wanting to see a certain movie or as noble as paying off my mortgage. Also relationships are paramount. They keep us grounded. They keep us accountable. Use your relationships to help rather than hurt. I don't have any marriage advice except that in my 33 yrs of marriage I have discovered that marriage isn't always about love it's about commitment. There will be good times again.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2017 12:28:32 GMT -5
BigPapaJoe ... Since you live in Hong Kong, I'm pretty sure that are some clubs that deals with meditation that offers a chance to relax. I went to Hong Kong back in 2004 with my parents that asked me to join them and one of the things that these clubs have both morning and afternoon sessions for a chance to relax and reconnect some of the people there and they have fellowship gatherings that promotes social times together and that's the beauty of these clubs. This way you can leave your home and have some quiet time to think and reflect and that's would do wonders for your emotional and physical health. Hong Kong in some places are great for bicycles to travel around and pretty popular in the south end (I think) of the city and you could join a club that uses bicycles to form friendships and good will. My tour guide belong to one of these clubs and they are quite popular at the time when I visit Hong Kong back then. Cooking clubs, Art Clubs, and other clubs that are also popular in Hong Kong and they are pretty low cost as well. I hope you get better and it's important to keep busy and have some balance in your life. Keep us in the loop and keep us informed.
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on Oct 27, 2017 12:53:11 GMT -5
I can't add much in the way of dealing with depression and such personally. But I can add that you might voice your concerns of your family life to your wife at least. There's a lot of things I don't realize about my wife who deals with depression, anxiety and bipolar. So maybe your wife doesn't realize the extent that her nagging can be on you. Or just the chaos in general you described goes on.
Also, I rarely get time alone. Yesterday I took the day off work, and between my wife leaving at 9:30 am and my firstborn getting home at 3pm, from school, I was alone in the house and it was amazing. I did nothing but playing Zelda and have some beers. It really helped because the last time I was alone at the house was over two years ago. So I totally get the importance of alone time for recharging. Because I get it so rarely.
As many have said, always feel free to talk here with us. I've know some of our posters here for over 10 years and there are some amazing and helpful friends, that I myself, have come to in need of help.
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Post by Phil Maurice on Oct 27, 2017 19:47:56 GMT -5
BigPapaJoe ... Since you live in Hong Kong, I'm pretty sure that are some clubs that deals with meditation that offers a chance to relax. I went to Hong Kong back in 2004 with my parents that asked me to join them and one of the things that these clubs have both morning and afternoon sessions for a chance to relax and reconnect some of the people there and they have fellowship gatherings that promotes social times together and that's the beauty of these clubs. This way you can leave your home and have some quiet time to think and reflect and that's would do wonders for your emotional and physical health. Hong Kong in some places are great for bicycles to travel around and pretty popular in the south end (I think) of the city and you could join a club that uses bicycles to form friendships and good will. My tour guide belong to one of these clubs and they are quite popular at the time when I visit Hong Kong back then. Cooking clubs, Art Clubs, and other clubs that are also popular in Hong Kong and they are pretty low cost as well. I hope you get better and it's important to keep busy and have some balance in your life. Keep us in the loop and keep us informed. This is thoughtful and substantive advice, Caped Crusader. Just when I think your capacity for compassion and kindness must surely have reached its limit, you invariably surprise me. BigPapaJoe, I hope you are able to find a path forward and that your situation improves. You are not alone in experiencing a sense of hopelessness, but I assure you it is temporary. Life turns on a dime, and you are valuable, in ways you may not even imagine. Stay strong.
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