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Post by Icctrombone on Feb 24, 2015 17:51:15 GMT -5
Who doesn't love Dolphins.
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Post by Wild Card on Feb 24, 2015 18:07:32 GMT -5
Just saw your post this morning. I'm really sorry about what you've had to go through. My family is not what you would call "close-knit", so going years without contact isn't unusual. My wife's side of the family, though, specializes in epic fights. One went on for years that started with the caterer not bringing the ham for their mother's wake, and for some reason most of the siblings decided that one of the others cancelled it out of some sort of spite. My wife and I were left in the middle trying to tell most of the family that none of what they were saying made any sense, and trying to reassure the accused family that not everyone was against them. It seemed to never occur to anyone else that the caterer was just lying to cover that he screwed up the order. So I know how families can be. You've gotten some really good advice from everyone here. I would emphasize taking care of yourself and don't pile blame on yourself for not being involved in the original dispute. I was the youngest in my family, and the last to escape a bad situation, but I tried not to blame my brothers for getting out when they could. It was every man for himself at that point (thank God for the military). Hopefully your sister/siblings realize you weren't leaving them, just the situation. You're on the right track by reaching out to bring you and your sister back together, but remember not to take sides in the original dispute, if you can. That can end up adding fuel to the fire, regardless of which side you take. Oh, no!  I'm sorry that had to happen and at a wake, of all places! I hope things worked out! My siblings and I bicker, but we've never had a fight that lasted more than a day or two. I'm very thankful for the advice I've gotten, and it took me couple days to figure out exactly how to approach based on what was suggested, and I think I have proceeded appropriately. I will also take your advice into stride, because I know you're right. I shouldn't be so hard on myself about it. It's difficult, as I've always blamed myself for everything that went wrong, but I'm learning. I'm sorry you were also in a bad situation, but I'm glad of the person you've become to be. You're great from what I can see, as is everyone else here.  Quick question, if I'm allowed to ask: you were the one to enter the military? I hope it all works and the lot of us can get along again. From what I'm hearing, my sister isn't talking to my mum, but she is talking to our sisters and brother. Since she blocked them at the same time I blocked her, maybe it's a good sign. We'll see! Thank you again, and sorry it took me awhile to get on to answer this! |
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Post by Wild Card on Feb 24, 2015 18:15:09 GMT -5
Hey, everyone! Just thought I'd give an update. Thank you all again for the advice. I've unblocked her, but haven't sent a message. Instead, I sent a hand written letter, complete with a drawing a drew from her a while back. We usually do that. Trade drawings, I mean. I sent it out Monday, so it should be there by Friday. She's a smart girl, she'll notice I've unblocked her and if she's ready to talk, I know her well enough to know she will send a message. If not, she'll just ignore me. She knows me well enough to know I don't make first moves, so if the letter gets there before she sends a message, it should be a surprise for her. My only worry at this moment is if she decides to continue fighting, because she isn't ready to make up. Hopefully, I won't have to cross that bridge.
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Post by dupersuper on Feb 24, 2015 23:38:33 GMT -5
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Post by Action Ace on Feb 24, 2015 23:49:59 GMT -5
I like dolphins but I've heard they will sometimes attack the groin area of male humans. They also terrorized people in New York, Boston and Buffalo for a couple of decades. |
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Post by Icctrombone on Feb 24, 2015 23:57:18 GMT -5
I like dolphins but I've heard they will sometimes attack the groin area of male humans. They also terrorized people in New York, Boston and Buffalo for a couple of decades. Maybe but they haven't won a thing in 50 years.  |
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Post by the4thpip on Feb 25, 2015 7:06:40 GMT -5
Yay, hondobrode discovered my tumblr.
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Post by impulse on Feb 25, 2015 9:20:38 GMT -5
Welp, I'm working from home today as the northern half of Georgia is going into a state of emergency in anticipation of Winter Stormageddon 2015!!!!!
So, I'm working in my PJs and sipping coffee at home listening to music on my fancy shmancy speakers, and I get to visit the baby, my wife, and the dogs on breaks. All-in-all, I'd say this day is off to a great start.
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Post by DE Sinclair on Feb 25, 2015 9:31:04 GMT -5
Just saw your post this morning. I'm really sorry about what you've had to go through. My family is not what you would call "close-knit", so going years without contact isn't unusual. My wife's side of the family, though, specializes in epic fights. One went on for years that started with the caterer not bringing the ham for their mother's wake, and for some reason most of the siblings decided that one of the others cancelled it out of some sort of spite. My wife and I were left in the middle trying to tell most of the family that none of what they were saying made any sense, and trying to reassure the accused family that not everyone was against them. It seemed to never occur to anyone else that the caterer was just lying to cover that he screwed up the order. So I know how families can be. You've gotten some really good advice from everyone here. I would emphasize taking care of yourself and don't pile blame on yourself for not being involved in the original dispute. I was the youngest in my family, and the last to escape a bad situation, but I tried not to blame my brothers for getting out when they could. It was every man for himself at that point (thank God for the military). Hopefully your sister/siblings realize you weren't leaving them, just the situation. You're on the right track by reaching out to bring you and your sister back together, but remember not to take sides in the original dispute, if you can. That can end up adding fuel to the fire, regardless of which side you take. Oh, no! I'm sorry that had to happen and at a wake, of all places! I hope things worked out! My siblings and I bicker, but we've never had a fight that lasted more than a day or two. I'm very thankful for the advice I've gotten, and it took me couple days to figure out exactly how to approach based on what was suggested, and I think I have proceeded appropriately. I will also take your advice into stride, because I know you're right. I shouldn't be so hard on myself about it. It's difficult, as I've always blamed myself for everything that went wrong, but I'm learning. I'm sorry you were also in a bad situation, but I'm glad of the person you've become to be. You're great from what I can see, as is everyone else here. Quick question, if I'm allowed to ask: you were the one to enter the military? I hope it all works and the lot of us can get along again. From what I'm hearing, my sister isn't talking to my mum, but she is talking to our sisters and brother. Since she blocked them at the same time I blocked her, maybe it's a good sign. We'll see! Thank you again, and sorry it took me awhile to get on to answer this! As to what became known as "the ham debacle", I guess it worked out because after a few years most of them grudgingly moved on from it. Her family could teach the Mafia something about holding grudges. I hope things blow over in your family a lot sooner. As to the military: actually we all ended up joining, just different branches at different times. There was no money for college for any of us, so that was the best way to get some training for decent jobs. Plus it was the late 70's - early 80's, so it was peacetime, which made it a whole lot safer. My oldest brother went into the Air Force (he was the lifer, the rest of us got the training and got out), the middle brother went into the Army, and I went into the Navy. I suppose part of each of us going into different branches was no one wanted to copy a previous brother, but in my case I was also interested in going into the nuclear power field. I had good enough scores on the aptitude tests that I qualified, but when they found out I was color blind I was disqualified. I guess they thought I would cross the wrong wires and blow the thing up. Probably a good call on their part. Computers were my next choice and I've been there ever since. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2015 10:00:33 GMT -5
Thanks. It's been a long time since Dan put up a banana picture. I was oddly starting to miss them. They're watching you.  |
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Post by Pharozonk on Feb 25, 2015 10:31:07 GMT -5
Welp, I'm working from home today as the northern half of Georgia is going into a state of emergency in anticipation of Winter Stormageddon 2015!!!!! So, I'm working in my PJs and sipping coffee at home listening to music on my fancy shmancy speakers, and I get to visit the baby, my wife, and the dogs on breaks. All-in-all, I'd say this day is off to a great start. The university got closed today due to predicted weather conditions.  |
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Post by impulse on Feb 25, 2015 11:19:38 GMT -5
The university got closed today due to predicted weather conditions. Yep, sounds about right. Growing up, I lived in range of the Gulf of Mexico, so we had plenty of hurricane days. Now in GA it's winter days. It's reassuring in a way to know that no matter where you go in the country there is some form of natural event to get you out of having to get dressed and drive across town. |
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Feb 25, 2015 11:29:47 GMT -5
The university got closed today due to predicted weather conditions. Yep, sounds about right. Growing up, I lived in range of the Gulf of Mexico, so we had plenty of hurricane days. Now in GA it's winter days. It's reassuring in a way to know that no matter where you go in the country there is some form of natural event to get you out of having to get dressed and drive across town. Not in Idaho. |
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Post by impulse on Feb 25, 2015 11:45:11 GMT -5
But so many potatoes!
...I got nothing.
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Feb 25, 2015 11:49:12 GMT -5
But so many potatoes! ...I got nothing. Seriously. We get a lot of snow. But in the 16 years I've been practicing law Court has been closed one day. And that was because there was a major power outage that wasn't going to be fixed. There is no such thing as a work "snow day." |
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I'm sorry that had to happen and at a wake, of all places! I hope things worked out! My siblings and I bicker, but we've never had a fight that lasted more than a day or two. 
Quick question, if I'm allowed to ask: you were the one to enter the military?
