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Post by Confessor on Aug 19, 2020 17:11:19 GMT -5
Really sorry to hear that, Cap. You've certainly been through the emotional wringer this year. I know that you're a religious person, so hopefully you're able to lean on that for a bit of comfort and support, but at the same time you must really feel like you're having your faith tested. Hang on in there, my friend. Finger's crossed that things get better for you in a hurry. Stay strong.
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Post by Calidore on Aug 19, 2020 19:15:29 GMT -5
Cap, don't know if it's my place to suggest, but offering him some positive reinforcement re. the absence of booze might mean something to him.
Hope karma rebalances the scales for you and the family next year.
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Post by impulse on Aug 19, 2020 20:10:24 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about yet another hit, Cap. Good vibes your way that things only improve from here.
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Post by Icctrombone on Aug 19, 2020 20:43:57 GMT -5
Sorry, The Captain. I'm encouraged because that fall could have resulted in a worse injury or even death. |
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Post by The Captain on Aug 19, 2020 21:04:14 GMT -5
Confessor , it's funny you wrote what you did, as my faith is at low ebb right now. There is a lot going on at my small "c" church as well as with the large "C" Church universal that is challenging me, but as most of it is related to politics, I'll refrain from diving deeper here. My wife and I talked this afternoon, and I described it like a reservoir: while it's supposed to be full, there is something keeping it blocked up so that there is barely anything in it, so it might be possible for it to refill again but that day is not today. impulse & Icctrombone , thanks to both of you, my friends. Always know you guys will lift me up. @needs , sorry to hear about your dad's situation, and really glad he's made improvement since then. My dad has his hip replaced this afternoon, and while I haven't talked to him yet, my sister did and she said that he was in fairly good spirits considering the outcome. Calidore , you didn't overstep your boundaries at all and thanks for your suggestion. My dad and I do not have a good relationship, but he has been making an effort over the past few months to repair some of the damage he's done (My sister and I had very abusive childhoods, not physical but emotional and psychological). I'm glad that he is taking steps to clean himself up, for his sake, but part of me is angry at him that it took my mom leaving, a lot of which was driven by his drinking and abuse, before he started down this path. If it was so damn easy for him to quit cold turkey after she left, why couldn't he do it at any point over the previous 40+ years and save all of us a lot of pain?
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Post by Slam_Bradley on Aug 19, 2020 21:19:40 GMT -5
I’m sorry that life has been throwing you curves, Cap. Just hang in the box and wait for your pitch.
And I agree that you should acknowledge your father for not drinking. If there is one thing I’ve learned working with our local drug court it is that positive reinforcement of any good behavior is the single best reward.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2020 23:21:01 GMT -5
The Captain stay strong my friend. Sorry to hear about the trials and tribulations you are suffering through and keeping you in our thoughts here. And yes, you can acknowledge the first steps your dad has made towards sobriety without invalidating or diminishing your anger. In fact you can tell him both-that your proud he has stopped drinking but that you are still angry with him. He may need to hear both to know he is on the right path but still has a long ways to go. And remember, faith is nothing until it is tested. It's easy to have faith when things are going well, or are easy, it's when things get hard that it becomes a measure of faithfulness, but from my interactions with you, I know your faith is strong, true and genuine, and I believe in you. -M
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Post by berkley on Aug 20, 2020 0:22:25 GMT -5
All best wishes Captain.
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Post by brutalis on Aug 20, 2020 2:55:47 GMT -5
They say it's always darkest before the dawn breaks Captain. With all you have faced this year remember the triumphs than dwell upon the difficulties. All challenges can be faced and overcome as you are proving. Be strong, stay the course, keep your sails to the wind and know every storm must and will pass. It's those clear days ahead you and we all strive for...
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Post by Prince Hal on Aug 20, 2020 10:30:38 GMT -5
Late to this thread, The Captain, and can't do any better than those who have "spoken" already, nor can I possibly feel exactly as you do now. Having been through some of what you're going through with older parents, I can only say that there is much to be said for just concentrating on the next step you're taking as you trudge through this chapter of your life. Moving ahead is all you can do sometimes, and it sounds as if you are slogging along as well as can be expected. Be glad that you aren't doing this alone. You have a wonderful wife and kids;lean on them when you need to. Sometimes all you need is a hug. Unconditional love is a balm, a lifesaver, an inspirer. It's quite a powerful weapon to have at your disposal. (Trust me on this one.) And always take stock of your plight by looking left and right now and again, something that became a practice with me after many trips to Children's Hospital many years ago. There are others whose burdens make our own seem light by comparison. So sorry that you must walk this path right now. And yes, tell your father you're proud of him. Be the parent to him he never was to you. You'll be the better person for it. |
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Post by adamwarlock2099 on Aug 20, 2020 14:00:39 GMT -5
I read your post yesterday Captain and I couldn't think of anything to say. But one thing. And Prince Hal pointed it out well too. That you have your family for support. I know when I am going through something whether it's known by anyone but me or something they know I am going through, I have my wife; my support, my comforter, my pep talker and the one woman I love more than anything in the world, is who I know I can go to when I need to.
And my boys. Watching a movie, playing Minecraft or Mario Kart, or cooking with them helps too. They don't even have to know I am going through something, for me to find comfort and strength in their company.
Hoping the best for your father as well, and hopefully his recovery will get him his strength back again.
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Post by beccabear67 on Aug 20, 2020 20:53:30 GMT -5
I can't email someone anymore... I immediately get back an email from my ISP:
This is an automatically generated Delivery Status Notification.
Delivery to the following recipients failed permanently:
* ______@centurylink.net
Reason: This is an automatically generated Delivery Status Notification.Delivery to the following recipient(s) failed after 1 seconds: * ______@centurylink.netError: * ?? ??
They emailed me this morning and this afternoon but I can't reply. I put _______ where their address with centurylink is to post here. I've never had this happen with any email before, no idea what to make of it. I can telephone them I guess, maybe tomorrow if it's still going on. I'd wonder if their account was deleted or the company suddenly closed?
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Post by impulse on Aug 21, 2020 8:44:26 GMT -5
I can't email someone anymore... I immediately get back an email from my ISP: This is an automatically generated Delivery Status Notification.
Delivery to the following recipients failed permanently:
* ______@centurylink.net
Reason: This is an automatically generated Delivery Status Notification.Delivery to the following recipient(s) failed after 1 seconds: * ______@centurylink.netError: * ?? ??They emailed me this morning and this afternoon but I can't reply. I put _______ where their address with centurylink is to post here. I've never had this happen with any email before, no idea what to make of it. I can telephone them I guess, maybe tomorrow if it's still going on. I'd wonder if their account was deleted or the company suddenly closed? Is the issue only in emailing this particular person? If so, it is likely some issue with their individual account or centrylink itself. |
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Post by beccabear67 on Aug 21, 2020 12:16:58 GMT -5
Is the issue only in emailing this particular person? If so, it is likely some issue with their individual account or centrylink itself. I don't know anybody else with a centurylink address to see if their email would go through. The problem is still the same twelve hours after the last attempt. I heard something in the news about blackouts in California, maybe centurylink is based there. I'll telephone him and see if he even knows what's going on with his email but as his phone is also with centurylink I wonder if it'll be working? There's always a T-mobile cell phone but maybe that'd require him to have it turned on... This illustrates the problem with all the eggs in one basket, particularly tech dependent. I think we've all heard stories of people not being able to check in or out of hotels or unlock doors in hotels if the 'system' or power is down. I've had it at a bank where they were helpless until the backup came on and had to wait around a half hour (I could've just left), and twice had it where I (or anyone else) couldn't check books out of the library because of some system snafu. Not much point in being the latest cutting edge when you can't do simple basic stuff... and self-driving cars connected to the internet/GPS on the horizon. Often it's only people who have read science-fiction who even think of how many things can go wrong. GPS gets hacked or screws up and twenty three cars hit air flying off the Oakland bridge? Boeing's failsafe system on the 737 upgrade looked poised to wipe out that long established company recently. Paging Magnus Robot-Fighter!  |
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Post by Confessor on Aug 21, 2020 21:52:52 GMT -5
So, more good news on the job front: I've taken quite a few bookings for gigs lately -- I have three gigs next weekend! -- and one of the pubs where I run an open mic night has said they want to restart in early September, which is fantastic news. At this rate, I might be able to avoid having to get a proper job after all.  |
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