Add me to the list of CCFers with turbulent lives at home. My wife has really bad PTSD complicated by Traumatic Brain Injury. The combination makes her demanding, judgmental, crabby and obtuse. My ADHD symptoms really get on her nerves. She's also fragile, physically and emotionally; she has chronic pain, often has trouble walking, can't bend down to pick up something on the floor, and has an incredibly long list of food intolerances. She is able to shop for groceries; I do the cooking, dishwashing, cat care, and I have some help with cleaning and gardening. She takes supplements, herbs, homeopathics etc. all day long, and relies on me to choose which ones and when to take them. Now that the cat has chronic kidney disease and needs subcutaneous fluids every day, I can't really go anywhere. I missed my mom's 91st birthday last month, and even a weekend in Tacoma with Cei-U! is out of the question for the duration.

On the plus side, she's brilliant, has never had an addiction problem, and has an advanced degree in human sexuality and still maintains a small private practice as a clinical sexologist. She does use a prescription painkiller - an old formula, not prescribed much anymore, it has aspirin, caffeine and a barbiturate called butalbital. She takes the capsules apart (actually she doesn't have the dexterity to do it, so I do that part) and takes a quarter or an eighth of a capsule at a time, washing it down with a swig of brandy.

We have good days and bad days. We both see therapists, which is helping. My new guy, who I've been seeing for almost four months, does EMDR. I'd never tried it before but I wish I'd found it years ago. It's really helping me. I've also been on a new ADHD prescription for almost a year, with a dosage adjustment last fall, and this is the best I've felt in years.

Hang in there, everybody!

I think women are dealt a far more unfair hand than men in our society for basically all the reasons.

That said, in our culture it seems the only acceptable emotion for a man to show is anger, so I suspect that leads to a lot of bottling. Not excusing acting out or fits, but if there were more acceptable healthy outlets it might alleviate some of that.

It's probably a bot or a scammer mass-following. Most new follows I see on social media are from strangers/most likely fake accounts.

Today is International Cat Day. If you have a cat as a roommate, give them some extra treats

Dogs have owners.

Cats have servants.

My furry housemate, Hobo, does not care for treats.  Or people food.  She just eats her kibble and ignores everyone until bed-time.  

She was a stray for an extended period of time and while she's never made any attempt to go back outside since we got her indoors, she's still incredibly independent.  Hobo...it's not really a name, it's an occupation.