I obviously have a bias against Bendis' style, but I can't even say that his dialog is a strongpoint; page after page of dialog is not my idea of a good superhero comic. I have nothing against this in practice, many pages of Sandman were constructed that way, but it simply doesn't work for me in Avengers. When I read Sandman, I wanted that sort of thing as an experience from a stylistic perspective. I get no awe or wonder from the man's writing and have always been suspicious of the notion that human interaction is the center of the universe. I also think, from the little I've read, that he simply writes most characters with his voice and pretty much ignores differentiation in characterization. At what point did this become good writing? I've often wondered if this is simply a byproduct of the current social structure; is there a move to homogenize everything to bring us all around the same level so nothing offends, and consequentially, nothing stand out or lasts? 

As far as realism is concerned, I've always found that to be the most overrated aspect of the post-Watchman/DKR's era. What's most important to me is emotional resonance and substance. I can only speak for myself, but well written idealism has always moved me more than well written postmodernism. I like both, but I certainly favor one over the other.